A couple of months ago I was invited to join the #1000speak movement to do a post on February 20th about compassion or a cause close to my heart that needed compassion. I instantly loved the idea of 1000 people sharing blogs to raise awareness and remembering others to show compassion for any cause or situation that needs it. And also to encourage and remember people to be compassionate to eachother on a daily basis.
I have read so many amazing posts about compassion, they made me smile and cry at the same time. I have learned about other people struggeling with different situations in life and to give them my compassion has been a blessing.
I have through this movement been able to bring awareness of MRKH and infertility, and maybe some will have more compassion now for the struggle we have with Infertility.
I shared my post “My shattered mum dream” and here are some of the compassion comments I recived, that is not only to me but all girls struggeling with MRKH or Infertility :
“I am so sorry for your loss and the intangibility of it all. It is hard for anybody with an invisible form of grief, especially when people make even passing remarks and assumptions about your fertility or reasons for childlessness without knowing your situation. Although I haven’t experienced infertility myself, I had two aunts who could never have children and particularly walked that journey with one of them. I also have friends who haven’t met the one and due to their Christian values, have never had a sexual partner and friends who identified genetic problems and one whose much loved baby who was conceived after many years of trying, died at birth when the cord wrapped around her neck. They haven’t been able to have more children and all she has is the white bear the hospital gave her and a handful of photos. Not that another baby can simply replace one you’ve lost.
What I have seen is some people who can’t be close friends with people with kids. I’ve seen people embrace being Aunty. I’ve seen people work and work and work, seemingly to forget. I have also seen people adopt foster children and save those little lives and give them new lives filled with love, joy hope and being part of a family and community.
I read briefly about MRKH and was surprised how common it is and that I hadn’t heard of it before. It is a frightening condition because we as a society just take our fertility for granted.
I live with an extremely rare life-threatening muscle wasting disease which also affects my lungs. The odds of getting this are 1:100,000. It was triggered by my second pregnancy and has meant that all my daughter’s life we have have been living with the strong possibility that the kids would grow up without their Mum. I don’t know if I will ever accept this situation either but since my diagnosis, friends have died unexpectedly leaving their kids behind and a close friend has ALS and a 9 year old daughter.
Doing what you are doing raising awareness and being there to support other women is turning your devastating loss into a meaningful contribution to others. You can’t perhaps change the boat you are in but you can hold each others’ hands and no feel so alone.” xx Rowena
“It’s hard to find words to write in response to your post. Clearly you carry a burden of loss that my words are not going to take away. Perhaps knowing that people feel empathy for you can ease that burden a little.” Yvonne
“My heart broke for you reading your story. My daughter too as MRKH and has received the same sort of careless comments. When someone makes a stupid comment to her or in front of her, it takes everything in me not to attack them. I hope that she will find the strength that you have. You are a beautiful warrior!” Sarah
“Thanks for sharing your experience in such a raw, honest way. It helps me to really have compassion for what you and others have gone through/are going through. Big hug to you <3” Jennifer
“I extend my deep compassion for you. We have had a long journey of infertility. We started trying to have children when I was 28 and went through 9 cycles of IVF in the end. We are very lucky to have adopted two beautiful children, although it was a long, painful and expensive process also. I lost a baby through an ectopic pregnancy when I was 30 and have never been pregnant since. Even now at 46, the feelings of infertility are still there, even though I am lucky to be a mother and even though I feel guilty at times for still feeling sad over my infertility. Infertility is a special kind of sorrow because the sadness never really goes away.” YinYangmother.com
If you want to read other blogs from #1000speak that joined this movement please go to this link: http://new.inlinkz.com/luwpview.php?id=497564 and you can also search on the tag #1000speak and #1000voices on twitter
For more information on this movement visit their Facebookpage – 1000 Voices
Thank you all that took the time to read and show compassion and for sharing all the wonderful posts.